如何培养“会听话”的孩子 How to raise a child who listens well

Being a good listener is critical to your child's success at school. If he can't follow directions, whether on the playground ("Pick a partner and pass the ball back and forth across the field") or in the classroom ("Take out a piece of paper and a crayon") — he'll have a tough time learning. Children who are good listeners also have an advantage socially — they tend to be very good friends to others.
成为一个好的倾听者对你的孩子能在以后的学校里取得成功至关重要。否则，即使如操场上“挑选一个同伴，相互传球运球”，或是教室里“拿出一张纸和蜡笔”的指令也会让你的孩子手脚无措。善于倾听的孩子往往能友好的对待其他人，这有助于培养他们的社交能力。

Here are seven ways you can help your child become a better listener:
这里我们推荐了七种途径帮助你的孩子成为一位好的倾听者。

Be a good listener yourself

家长要善于倾听
Don't interrupt your child when he's telling you a story. Give him your undivided attention when he's talking — don't read the paper or carry on a conversation with someone else at the same time. Turn your attention to him when he wants to tell or show you something. If you want him to listen to you, he needs to see that you will listen to him too. Children return the respect they receive — and children who are listened to tend to become good listeners themselves.
当你的孩子给你讲故事时，不要打断他，把你全部的注意力放在他身上，不要同时看报纸或是与其他人聊天。当他想和你聊或是给你看什么东西时，不要忽略他。 如果你希望他你集中注意地听你讲话，你需要率先做好榜样。一个受到尊重和关注的孩子也会尊重和关注别人。

Give clear, simple directions for everyday tasks

日常用语尽量简洁明了
Get in the habit of giving your child simple instructions. Make eye contact with him, and say, "Please go into your room and make your bed. Then get your backpack and meet me downstairs." As he becomes a better listener, you can add another task or two. In this way, you're not only teaching your child to listen well, but also to be independent.
养成用简明的语言指导孩子的习惯。例如，在告诉孩子：“ 去你的房间整理好你的床，带上背包到楼下和我碰头。” 的同时要有目光的交流。当他逐渐能清楚地理解你的意思后，再增加新的任务。这样，你的孩子不仅有了准确的接受和理解的能力，也有了良好的生活自理能力。

Praise good listening

及时的鼓励
Saying "Thanks for being such a good listener" will reinforce your child's desire to listen. Make a special point of praising him when he follows directions the first time.
每当孩子第一次准确地理解了你的指令时，及时的鼓励，如，称赞他是“好聪明懂事的孩子”，将有助于强化孩子认真倾听的习惯。

Say what you mean

说话算话
If you tell your child "You can have two more cookies," then give him two cookies — not three or four. Once your child figures out that you don't stick to your word, he'll tune you out.
如果你告诉孩子：“你可以吃两块曲奇。”那么就只给他两块，不多也不少。一旦你的孩子觉得你说话不算话，以后他就会把你的话当作耳边风。

Be consistent about consequences

言必行，行必果
If you tell your child that you will leave the grocery store if he continues to stand up in the cart, follow through without giving him another chance. Your child will be more inclined to do what is asked of him when he understands that his actions have clear, enforceable consequences.
如果不管你怎么劝说，小孩不停地在购物车里玩闹，你可以告诉他你们马上将离开商场，并坚决地行动，不再给他任何讲条件的机会。这样你的孩子才会清晰地明白他的行动会造成怎样的后果，从而在以后更愿意听从你的意见。

Read aloud together

一起大声朗读
The time you spend reading together will help prepare your child for story time at school. He'll be expected to sit still for longer and longer periods so anything you can do at home to help him increase his tolerance for listening will help. But don't force your fidgety preschooler to listen to books he's not interested in — this will make him less rather than more interested in reading.
多花时间和你的孩子一起朗读将为他以后在学校的学习做好准备。家中任何有助于培养孩子耐心倾听能力的活动都能促使孩子在学校里更长时间地安静学习。但是，不要强制烦躁不安的孩子听他不感兴趣的书，因为那只会适得其反。